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You read English, you understand English, you've been learning for years, but when it's time to speak, your mind just freezes and the words don't come out.

My name's Ola and this is Teacherola podcast.

This is about your voice, your words, your real English.

Christmas can be wonderful, but it often comes with situations that test our patience and communication skills.

Maybe someone makes a sharp comment, asks something too personal or keeps complaining when you're trying to enjoy the evening.

Today I'll walk you through five common Christmas moments like these and show you how to respond in a way that is polite,

You need to get used to speaking English, you need to hear your own voice and you need to start using these phrases automatically, but it won't happen if you don't practice here with me.

But there is a more stable and confident option and it comes from a technique used in conflict de-escalation.

Name it, neutralize it and move on.

That's it.

It's honest, it's clear and it stops the conversation without creating a fight.

It's warm and it at the same time draws a line, a very clear line.

The idea is to protect yourself without punishing the other person and without humiliating them.

The second situation is when someone asks intrusive questions.

For example, oh that's a big question, I'm keeping those things private, but tell me, how was your trip?

It's smooth, it's friendly and the other person doesn't feel slapped.

Let me say it again, oh that's a big question, I'm keeping those things private, but tell me, how was your trip?

And I think this answer is really brilliant.

I'll let you know when it's ready.

I'll let you know when it's ready.

But I think this answer is really fun.

I'll let you know when it's ready.

And you maintain this relationship and it's direct.

And it shows...

Well, and when someone is stuck in that pattern, they're usually overwhelmed, they're anxious, and listen, they're tired.

Or if the conversation is heading into a topic you truly don't want to enter, you can use a topic changing strategy here and it fits perfectly.

Something like, yes, that's quite heavy.

Yeah, that's quite heavy.

You know, that's quite heavy.

And that's the heart of this whole episode.

You're simply choosing the tone you want for Christmas and using language that protects your peace without wounding anyone else.

And these tools let you stay kind, let you stay steady and keep the atmosphere warm, even when someone else is struggling with their own stress and frustration.

And now we're going to switch into the active part of this episode, the part where you're not just listening, you actually speak.

and in a moment I'll read several sentences from today's lesson and your job is to repeat them out loud.

Don't whisper, don't just say them in your head, speak them with your real voice.

This kind of practice wakes up your speaking muscles, builds confidence and helps your brain store entire phrases, not just single words.

This is amazing practice and I'm so glad you're doing it.

It helps you hear yourself in English, but it's still only you and me here.

At some point every learner reaches the moment when they need real conversations, real people, real reactions, real situations and that's when progress becomes natural.

I match you by level, I give you specific tasks to complete and I guide you through the process so you always know what to do.

You are supported, challenged and you are heard.

And you never practice alone.

I want you to experience what happens when daily speaking becomes normal.

When you hear your own voice in English every day, when you answer real questions, when you react to other people, when you build the habit of speaking without fear.

That's the environment where your English stops being a project and starts being a skill you actually use.

I'll let you know when it's ready.

That's all from me now.

Don't forget to head to teacherola.com ukośnik 319 and grab your free worksheet.

Go to teacherola.com forward slash grupy and sign up.

Stay fearless, take care and say it out loud.

I'm your teacher, Teacher Ola and you're listening to Teacher Ola Podcast.